The Most Important Relationship

What would you say is the most important relationship in your life? Many would say that their relationship with their spouse or with their children is the most important. That is what comes to my mind, but then I read these words that Jesus spoke, “If anyone comes to Me, and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes even his own life, he cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:26).

Now, no one teaches about love as much and as well as Jesus. No one demonstrates love like Jesus, yet he tells us in order to be devoted to Him, we must hate our father, our mother, our spouse, our children, our siblings, and even our own life. Wow! What is Jesus saying here? What is He saying to us?

Darrell Bock says it this way, “The call to hate simply means to love less. The image is strong, but it is not a call to be insensitive or leave all feeling behind. Following Jesus is to be the disciple’s first love.”

Jesus is saying that a relationship with Him needs to be in an altogether different category, far beyond any other relational commitment we have in our lives. In other words, no one can be as significant to us as Him. No one! Practically this means we, as followers of Christ, may face relational pressures to quit being His follower. When this happens a decision has to be made about which relationship is more important…the family relationship or the relationship with Jesus. Which relationship would you choose?

~ Tim Hall (I encourage feedback, questions & comments - email me at